မိမိကုိယ္ကုိယ္ ခ်စ္ျခင္းဟာ တစ္ကုိယ္ေကာင္းဆန္တာ မဟုတ္

ျမတ္ဗုဒၶ မိန့္ၾကားခဲ့တာက- “ စၾက၀ဠာတစ္ခုလုံးမွာ ဘယ္ပုဂၢဳိလ္ပဲ ျဖင့္ျဖစ္ ထုိက္တန္ယင္ထုိက္တန္သေလာက္-သင္ဟာ သင့္ရဲ့ခ်စ္ျခင္းေမတၱာနဲ့ သင့္ရဲ့ယုယခင္မင္မႈကုိ သင္ကုိယ္ကုိယ္တုိင္ ထုိက္တန္တယ္” ဆုိတာပါ။

အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ရဲ့အတၱဆန္တဲ့ လႈပ္ရွားမႈဘ၀မ်ားက- က်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ဟာ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ကုိယ္ကုိယ္ တကယ္တမ္းကုိ ခ်စ္ခင္ တြယ္တာတယ္ဆုိတာ အဆုိျပဳႏုိင္ပါတယ္။ ဒါေပမယ့္ ဘ၀က ၾကဳိဆုိရမွာျဖစ္တဲ့အရာမွ အေကာင္းဆုံးျဖင့္ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ ကုိယ္ကုိ ဖူးဖူးမႈတ္ အလုိလုိက္ ပုိးေမြးသလုိ ေမြးထားေပမယ့္လည္း- အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ဟာ ၀မ္းနည္းမႈမ်ား၊ စိတ္ပ်က္ လက္ပ်က္ျဖစ္မႈမ်ား၊ မေက်နပ္မႈမ်ား၊ အေဖာ္မဲ့အထီးက်န္မႈမ်ား၊ မျပည့္စုံမႈမ်ား၊ ျငင္းပယ္ ပစ္ပယ္ထားမႈမ်ား၊ ကူေဖာ္ေလာင္ဖက္ကင္းမႈမ်ား၊ ခါးသီးျပင္းထန္မႈမ်ားမွ ထိခုိက္ခံစားေနရဆဲပါ။

အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့က က်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ကုိယ္ကုိ ေစတနာ ေရစီးကမ္းျပဳိ ပုံေအာလုိက္တဲ့ ဂရုျပဳအာရုံစုိက္မႈမ်ားဟာ- က်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ဟာ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ကုိယ္ကုိ လုံလုံေလာက္ေလာက္ ေက်နပ္ေလာက္ေအာင္ ခ်စ္တာမဟုတ္ပါ-ဆုိတာ ထင္ရွားေစပါတယ္။ သုိ့ေစကာမူ သဟဇာတျဖစ္ျခင္းနဲ့ေပ်ာ္ရႊင္မႈအတြက္ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ရဲ့ မေရာင့္ရဲ မတင့္တိမ္ႏုိင္ တဲ့ တမ္းတမႈအာသီသဟာ- က်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့က အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ကုိယ္တုိင္ လမ္းမွန္က်တဲ့နည္းလမ္းကုိ ခ်စ္တာမဟုတ္ပါ-လုိ့ ဆုိလုိပါတယ္။

အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ လူ့က်င့္၀တ္ဆုိင္ရာ ျပဳစုပ်ဳိးေထာင္ေလ့က်င့္ေပးမႈမ်ားကုိ ထည့္သြင္းစဥ္းစားေထာက္ဆလ်င္- ( မျဖစ္တည္ဖုိ့ အဲဒါအတြက္ မျဖစ္ႏုိင္လုနီးပါး ျဖစ္ရသည့္တုိင္)- အမ်ားအျပားက မိမိကုိယ္ကုိယ္ခ်စ္ျခင္းနဲ့ ပတ္သက္လုိ့ ေျဗာင္က် မဖုံးကြယ္တဲ့ ေပၚေပၚထင္ထင္ အေတြးစိတ္ကူးမ်ားကုိ ကဖ်က္ယဖ်က္ လုပ္ပါတယ္။ ဒါဟာ အက်ြနု္ပ္တုိ့က အျခား သူမ်ားနဲ့ ပတ္သက္လုိ့ တစ္ကုိယ္ေကာင္းဆန္တဲ့ ဂရုစုိက္အေလးမထားမႈမ်ားျဖင့္- မိမိကုိယ္ကုိ ခ်စ္ျခင္းကုိ ဇေ၀ဇ၀ါရႈပ္ေထြးေစတဲ့ - အတြက္ေၾကာင့္ ျဖစ္ပါတယ္။

မိမိကုိယ္ကုိယ္ခ်စ္ျခင္းရဲ့ ႏုညံ့ေပ်ာ့ေပ်ာင္းတဲ့အေျခအေနဟာ - (ဘယ္နည္းလမ္းျဖစ္ျဖင့္ အျခားသူမ်ားအတြက္ ခ်စ္ျခင္း ကုိ ဟန့္တားမပိတ္ပင္တဲ့ ) ျခြင္းခ်က္သေဘာမေဆာင္တဲ့ မိမိကုိယ္ကုိယ္ လက္သင့္ခံျခင္း ျဖစ္ပါတယ္။ ဒါ့ေၾကာင့္ အဲဒီေပ်ာ့ေပ်ာင္းတဲ့အေျခအေနဟာ သူ့ရဲ့ အႏၱရာယ္ဒုကၡ​ ေပးႏုိင္တဲ့ သြင္ျပင္- အတၱေပမ၀ါဒ- ကဲ့သုိ့ တူညီတာ မဟုတ္ပါ။

မိမိကုိယ္ကုိယ္ခ်စ္ျခင္းဟာ အျခားသူမ်ားကုိ ခ်စ္ဖုိ့အတြက္ မရွိမျဖစ္ ထားရွိရမယ့္ လုိအပ္ခ်က္ျဖစ္သလုိ- အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ကုိ ခ်စ္ဖုိ့ အျခားသူမ်ားအတြက္ မရွိမျဖစ္ ရွိထားရမည့္ လုိအပ္ခ်က္လည္း ျဖစ္ပါတယ္။

လူအမ်ားႏွင့္ အေျခအေနမ်ား (အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ရဲ့ ကုိယ္ပုိင္ ခံစားခ်က္မ်ားႏွင့္ အေတြးမ်ားရဲ့ တုိးခ်ဲ့ျခင္း) နဲ့ပတ္သက္လုိ့ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ရဲ့ တုံ့ျပန္မႈမ်ားက အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ကုိ ျပဳလုပ္တာ ျဖစ္ပါတယ္။ ဒါ့ေၾကာင့္ ၾကဳိက္ဖုိ့- ခ်စ္ဖုိ့- ေလးစားဖုိ့ႏွင့္ အက်ြႏဳ္ပ္တုိ့ကုိယ္ကုိ ယုံၾကည့္ဖုိ့ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ရဲ့ မတတ္ႏုိင္ျခင္းဟာ - ခ်ဳိ့ယြင္းအားနည္းမႈႏွင့္ မထုိက္တန္မႈရဲ့ ခံစားမႈအေနျဖင့္ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ထံ ျပန္ေရာက္လာပါတယ္။

ထူးထူးျခားျခား- အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့မ်ားစြာဟာ တစ္ဖက္စြန္း အစြန္းေရာက္မႈ (အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ဟာ က်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ ဘယ္သူျဖစ္တယ္ ဆုိတာ- ပုိလြန္းစြာပဲ ပီတိတဖြားဖြား၀င့္ၾကြားလုိ့ျဖစ္ေစ- ဒါမွမဟုတ္ ညည္းညဴလုိ့ျဖစ္ေစ၊ ကုိယ္ရည္ေသြး ေလလုံးထြားလုိ့ျဖစ္ေစ- ဒါမွမဟုတ္ ညွဳိးငယ္စြာ ၀မ္းပန္းတနည္း အျမဲတမ္းျဖစ္လုိ့ ျဖစ္ေစ) မွာ တည္ရွိပါတယ္။ ဒါ့ေၾကာင့္ မွန္ကန္တဲ့ မိမိကုိယ္ကုိယ္ ေလးစားျခင္းျဖင့္- အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ရဲ့အတၱနွင့္ အတူျပဳတန္းတူထားဖုိ့- အေတြ့အၾကဳံ မရွိတာ ႏုံတာ ရုိးစင္းတာ ျဖစ္ပါတယ္။

မိမိကုိယ္ကုိယ္ေလးစားျခင္းဟာ- အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ကုိယ္ကုိယ္ႏွင့္ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ရဲ့ျမင့္မားတဲ့ အေျခအေနမ်ားႏွင့္အတူ- ထပ္ကာ ထပ္ကာျဖစ္တဲ့ အတူခံစားျခင္းကုိ ျဖစ္တည္ျခင္းမွ်သာ မဟုတ္ပါ။ ဒါေပမယ့္ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ပတ္လည္ရွိ လူသားမ်ားနဲ့ပတ္ သက္လုိ့- ပုိေကာင္းေစတဲ့ ၾကည္လင္ျပတ္သားမႈကုိ ရရွိျခင္းနဲ့စပ္လ်ဥ္း၍လည္း ျဖစ္ပါတယ္။

သုိ့ေသာ္လည္း - အတၱနဲ့ပတ္သက္ျပီး အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ရဲ့သေဘာထားမ်ားစြာကုိ- အဲဒါကုိ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့က အျခားသူမ်ားကုိ ဘယ္လုိ ၾကည့္ျမင္ေစခ်င္သလဲ-ဆုိတာက ပုံေဖာ္ပါတယ္။ ျပီးေတာ့ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ဟာ အဆက္မျပတ္ အဲဒါမ်ားႏွင့္ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ကုိယ္ကုိ ႏႈိင္းယွဥ္ပါတယ္။

အဲဒါက အမွီေဒါက္အေပၚမွာ တစ္ခုတည္းရွိျခင္းကဲ့သုိ့- ဗဟုိအခ်က္အခ်ာဟာ ေသြးျခင္းသျခင္းအေပၚမွာ မ်ားစြာ မဟုတ္ပါ။ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ရဲ့ကုိယ္ပုိင္ဟန္ကုိ ထိန္းခ်ဳပ္အသုံးခ်ျခင္းအေပၚမွာ မဟုတ္ပါ။

မွန္ကန္တဲ့ မိမိကုိယ္ကုိယ္ခ်စ္ျခင္းဟာ အျခားသူမ်ားရဲ့ သေဘာထားအျမင္မ်ားမွာ ရွင္သန္ေပါက္ဖြာတာ မဟုတ္ပါ။ အဲဒါက အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ဟာ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ရဲ့ကုိယ္ပုိင္လကၡဏာ-ကုိ ရွာေဖြတဲ့ေနရာ ျဖစ္ကတည္းက-ျပီးေျမာက္ျခင္း ဒါမွမဟုတ္ ပုိင္ဆုိင္ျခင္းရဲ့ အတုိင္းအတာဟာ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ကုိယ္တုိင္နဲ့ပတ္သက္လုိ့ ေကာင္းမြန္ဖုိ့ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့အတြက္ အျမဲတမ္း မလုံေလာက္ေတာ့ပါ။

အျပင္ဘက္ လြန္လြန္ကဲကဲေျမွာက္စားျခင္းႏွင့္ စိတ္ခ်ဖုိ့အာမခံေပးမႈအေပၚ အက်ြႏု္္ပ္တုိ့ရဲ့ မီွခုိမႈလြန္ကဲရျခင္းက - စိုးရိမ္ေၾကာင့္ၾကမႈမ်ား၊ ယုံၾကည္မႈ ကင္းမဲ့ျခင္း၊ ပါ၀ါကင္းတဲ့ ခံစားခ်က္မ်ား၊ မိမိကုိယ္ကုိယ္ တန္ဖုိးထားမႈ ယုိယြင္းပ်က္စီးေစျခင္းမ်ားကုိ - အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ကုိ ခ်န္ထားခဲ့ပါတယ္။

ျပီးေတာ့ အဲဒါမ်ားဟာ- ဖိအားမ်ားႏွင့္ စြမ္းေဆာင္မႈမ်ားနဲ့ပတ္သက္လုိ့ မလုပ္မေနလုပ္ရျခင္းမ်ား က- ျဖစ္တည္ျခင္းရဲ့ ေပ်ာ္ရႊင္ေက်နပ္မႈကုိ ညွဳိမွိန္သြားတာ ျဖစ္လုိ့- ခက္ခက္ခဲခဲ ေရွ့ခရီးဆက္ႏွင္ဖုိ့ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ကုိ - ခ်န္ထားရစ္ပါတယ္။

ျပည္သူလူထုဘ၀မွာေတာင္- (မိမိကုိယ္ကုိယ္အေရးပါမႈက လူေတြရဲ့သေဘာထားျဖစ္ေနတယ္) ဆုိတဲ့ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ရဲ့ အတုယူစံနမူနာထားထုိက္သူမ်ားကုိ- သူတုိ့ရဲ့စစ္မွန္တဲ့အတၱမ်ားရဲ့ ခ်စ္ခင္ဖြယ္ေကာင္းတဲ့ အျမင္မ်ားထက္- သူတုိ့ရဲ့ လွည့္စားထားတဲ့ Ego-မ်ားက- မ်ားစြာေမာင္းႏွင္တြန္းပုိ့ ပါတယ္။

Ego- ဟာ စၾက၀ဠာရဲ့ ျငိမ္းခ်မ္းစြာ မေရြ့မလ်ားမလႈပ္မယွက္မႈမွ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ကုိ လမ္းခြဲပစ္တဲ့အရာ ျဖစ္ပါတယ္။ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ရဲ့ Ego- က ပလႊားမႈမာနႏွင့္ ေမာက္မာမႈမွာ ထုတ္ေဖာ္ျပသမႈ မ်က္ႏွာေပးအမူအရာကုိ အစဥ္ သျဖင့္ ေတြ့ရပါတယ္။ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ကုိ မၾကာခဏ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တု့ိရဲ့ ဆုိး၀ါးတဲ့ရန္ သူျဖစ္ေအာင္ ျပဳလုပ္တဲ့အရာ ျဖစ္ပါတယ္။ ဒါ့ေၾကာင့္ အဲဒါကုိ (အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ရဲ့ ၀ိညာဥ္ႏွင့္ကမၻာ့အျမင္မ်ားကုိ ပိတ္ပင္ဟန့္တားထားသည္ထိ)- လြတ္လပ္တဲ့ဦးစီးဦး ကုိင္ျပဳတဲ့ေနရာကုိ ပုံေပးရမည္ မဟုတ္ပါ။

အဲဒီအစား အဲဒါကုိ (သူ့ရဲ့ခယ၀ယလုပ္ျခင္းေအာက္က်ဳိ့ျခင္းမွ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ကုိယ္တုိင္ ကယ္ထုတ္ဖုိ့ရာ- အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ကုိ ခြင့္ျပဳလမ္းဖြင့္ေပးဖုိ့)- အသိအမွတ္ျပဳသင့္ျပီး- မိတ္ေဆြလုိ သေဘာထားသင့္ပါတယ္။ ျပီးေတာ့ အဲဒါကုိ- (အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ရဲ့ ဆႏၵျပင္းျပတဲ့အတၱနဲ့ဆက္ႏြယ္ျပီး က်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ကုိ ကူညီတဲ့- ျပီးေတာ့ စိတ္နဲ့ပတ္သက္လုိ့ အျခားသူမ်ားရဲ့ရႈေထာင့္ ကုိ ေတြ့ျမင္တဲ့) - ျဖစ္တည္ျခင္းရဲ့ ျပန္လည္လန္းဆန္းတက္ၾကြေစတဲ့ စြမ္းပကား အင္အားထဲသုိ့- အဲဒီရဲ့ စြမ္းရည္ကုိ ေျပာင္းလဲဖုိ့- အသိအမွတ္ျပဳ မိတ္ေဆြလုိ သေဘာထား သင့္ပါတယ္။

(အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့မွာ ကန့္သတ္ထိန္းခ်ဳပ္ထားတဲ့ လြန္လြန္ၾကဳးၾကဳးျဖစ္ရပ္မ်ားကုိ ေက်ာ္လႊားခ်ဳိးႏွိမ္ျခင္း- အက်ြႏု္ပ္ တုိ့ရဲ့ ေၾကာက္လန့္မႈမ်ားႏွင့္ ယုံၾကည္မႈနည္းပါး ျခင္းမ်ားအေပၚ ဖက္ျပဳိင္ျခင္း- အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ကုိ စိတ္အေႏွာင့္ အယွက္ျဖစ္ေစတဲ့အရာႏွင့္ သင့္ေတာ္စြာ စပ္ဆက္ျခင္း-) ဘယ္ၾကာခံ ဆက္သြယ္ေရးပဲျဖစ္ျဖစ္- ဒါက (အျပစ္တင္လႊဲခ်ဖုိ့ တစ္စုံတစ္ေယာက္ကုိ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ကုိ ဆက္လက္ရွာေဖြခုိင္းေနတဲ့- အေရးမပါတဲ့အရာမ်ားကုိ တႏုံ့ႏုံ့စဥ္းစားေနျခင္း အေပၚ)- အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ရဲ့စြမ္းရည္မ်ားကုိ ျဖဳန္းတီးေနျခင္းမွ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ကုိ ထိန္းသိမ္းႏုိင္ ပါတယ္။

မွန္ကန္တဲ့နည္းလမ္းျဖင့္ မိမိကုိယ္ကုိယ္ ခ်စ္ျခင္းက - ၀န္ထုပ္၀န္ပုိတစ္ခုအစား Ego- ကုိ အက်ဳိးေတာ္ေဆာင္တစ္ဦးသုိ့ - ရွင္းရွင္းလင္းလင္း လွည့္ေျပာင္းေနျခင္းပဲ ျဖစ္ပါတယ္။

အာရုံေၾကာမ်ား- ခ်စ္ျခင္းေမတၱာ- သေဘာထား

အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့က လူမ်ား အေျခအေနမ်ားကုိ အပ်က္သေဘာဆန့္က်င္ဘက္ တုံ့ျပန္တဲ့အခါ- အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ဟာ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ရဲ့ ခႏၶာကုိယ္ ဖြဲ့စည္းမႈ တစ္ခုလုံးမွာ ဆန့္က်င္ဘက္ဦးတည္ရာတစ္ခု စိတ္လႈပ္ရွားခံစားမႈ အထဲ ေရြ့လ်ား၀င္ေရာက္သြားပါတယ္။

အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ရဲ့ စိတ္ခံစားမႈအားလုံးဟာ လွ်ပ္စစ္ႏွင့္ဆုိင္တဲ့ ဓာတုေဗဒဆုိင္ရာ စြမ္းအင္မ်ား ျဖစ္ပါတယ္။ ျပီးေတာ့ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ရဲ့ အေတြးမ်ားႏွင့္ခံစားခ်က္မ်ားမွတစ္ဆင့္- ခႏၶာကုိယ္အတြင္းလွည့္ပတ္ေနတဲ့ ေသြးထဲ တုိက္ရုိက္ သြားတဲ့ ေဟာ္မုန္းဓာတ္ကုိ ထုတ္လုပ္ေပးတဲ့ အက်ိတ္စနစ္၊ အာရုံေၾကာ၊ ကုိယ္ခံအားမ်ားႏွင့္ ပင္ကုိယ္အားျဖင့္ ဆက္စပ္ေနပါတယ္။ ဖြဲ့စည္းမႈစနစ္မ်ားဟာ အပ်က္သေဘာဆန့္က်င္ဘက္အရ ဓာတ္အားသြင္းခံရလ်င္- အဲဒါေတြက အပ်က္သေဘာ တုံ့ျပန္ခ်က္မ်ားရဲ့ ကြင္းဆက္ျဖစ္ပြါးမႈတစ္ခုကုိ စိတ္လႈပ္ရွားခံစားမႈ အထဲ မွာ ေရြ့လ်ား၀င္ေရာက္သြားပါတယ္။ ဒါ့ေၾကာင့္ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ဟာ ဘ၀မွာ အေျခအေန အေနအထားမ်ားနဲ့ ပတ္သက္လုိ့ သတိထားျပီး တုံ့ျပန္ဖုိ့ လုိအပ္ပါတယ္။

အေမရိကန္ ဂ်ာနယ္လစ္ Norman Cousins- ဟာ အလြန္မက်န္းမမာျဖစ္လာတဲ့အခါ- အားရစရာမေကာင္းတဲ့ ေရာဂါေရွးအလား အလာကုိ ေတြ့ရွိျခင္းက- သူ့ရဲ့ဆရာ၀န္မ်ားက သူ့အေပၚ ေမ်ာ္လင့္ခ်က္ကုိ စြန့္လႊတ္ရပါေတာ့မယ္။ ရက္အနည္းငယ္အတြင္း သူဟာ ဆုံးပါးပါလိမ့္မယ္။ သူရဲ့ နာမက်န္ျဖစ္ေနတဲ့အေျခအေနမွာ- ဆန့္က်င္ဘက္အပ်က္သေဘာခံစားခ်က္မ်ားဟာ အပ်က္သေဘာ ဆန့္က်င္ဘက္ ရုပ္ပုိင္းဆုိင္ရာ အက်ဳိးဆက္မ်ားရွိသလုိ- အေကာင္းဘက္ျမင္ အျပဳသေဘာေဆာင္တဲ့ခံစားခ်က္မ်ားက အျပဳသေဘာ အေပါင္းလကၡဏာေဆာင္တဲ့ ဦးတည္ရာဘက္မွာ ရုပ္ခႏၶာကုိယ္ကုိ အက်ဳိးသက္ေရာက္ေစလိမ့္မယ္- ဆုိတာ Cousin- ဟာ အခုိင္အမာယုံၾကည္ခဲ့ပါတယ္။ ဒါ့ေၾကာင့္ သူဟာ အမွန္တကယ္ ေပ်ာ္ရႊင္စရာဟာသေျမာက္တဲ့ ရယ္စရာ ရုပ္ရွင္မ်ားကုိ ငွါးရမ္းျပီး ပုံမွန္ ၾကည့္ျခင္းကုိ စတင္ခဲ့ပါတယ္။

သူဟာ အိပ္ေဆးရဲ့အကူအညီမယူဘဲ မ်ားစြာ အိပ္ဖုိ့စြမ္းႏုိင္ခဲ့တယ္- ဆုိတာ သတိျပဳမိပါတယ္။ ျပင္းထန္တဲ့ ဆင္းရဲေ၀ဒနာေတြက ေလ်ာ့လာေနပါတယ္။ သူဟာ အကုိက္အခဲေပ်ာက္ေဆးအေပၚ မွီခုိရမႈ နည္းပါးသြားပါတယ္။ သူဟာ ေကာင္းေကာင္းမြန္မြန္ ျဖစ္လာလ်င္ျဖစ္လာခ်င္း- British Medical Journal- မွာ သူ့ရဲ့အေတြ့အၾကဳံကုိ ေရးသားခဲ့ပါတယ္။

Art Mathias- ဟာ အမွ်င္ျဖင့္ျပဳလုပ္ထားတဲ့ပစၥည္းမ်ားအပါအ၀င္ စားစရာကိစၥ ရာေပါင္းမ်ားစြာနဲ့ ဓာတ္မတည့္ခဲ့ပါ။ သူဟာ ခ်ည္အ၀တ္ မ်ားကုိသာ ၀တ္ဆင္ႏုိင္ပါတယ္။ ျပီးေတာ့ အဲဒါေတြက ေစ်းအရမ္းၾကီးပါတယ္။ ေရာဂါေရွးအလားအလာဟာ ဆုိး၀ါးေနခဲ့ပါတယ္။ ေဒါက္တာမ်ားဟာ ၀န္ေလးစြာျဖင့္ သူ့အေပၚ ေမ်ာ္လင့္ခ်က္ကုိ စြန့္လႊတ္ရပါေတာ့မယ္။

တစ္ေန့မွာ သူဟာ ခြင့္လႊတ္ျခင္းနဲ့ပတ္သက္တဲ့ ေဒသနာေတာ္ကုိ နားေထာင္ခဲ့ရပါတယ္။ အဲဒီေနာက္ ရုိးရုိးသားသားပဲ သူ့ကုိ ထိခုိက္ အနာတရျဖစ္ေစခဲ့တဲ့သူမ်ားကုိ ခြင့္လႊတ္ဖုိ့ ဆုံးျဖတ္ခဲ့ပါတယ္။ အဲဒီေန့မွစျပီး သူဟာ သူဓာတ္မတည့္တဲ့ အစားအစာေတြ စားႏုိင္ခဲ့တယ္- ဆုိတာ ရုတ္တစ္ရက္ သေဘာေပါက္ခဲ့ပါတယ္။ သူ့ရဲ့အေရျပား ဓာတ္မတည့္တာေတြေတာင္ ရပ္ဆဲသြားခဲ့ပါတယ္။ ဒီအံၾသစရာ ေကာင္းတဲ့ေပ်ာက္ကင္းျခင္းရဲ့ ေနာက္မွာ- သူရဲ့ သေဘာထားစိတ္ကူး အယူအဆမွာ သူ ျပင္ဆင္ျပဌာန္းလုိက္တဲ့ အဓိကေျပာင္းလဲမႈပဲ ျဖစ္ပါတယ္။

Cousins- ႏွင့္ Mathias-- ႏွစ္ေယာက္လုံးအတြက္- အလွည့္အေျပာင္းကေတာ့ က်န္းမာေရးႏွင့္ စိတ္အနာတရမ်ားဆီသုိ့ သူတုိ့ရဲ့ သေဘာထားမ်ားပဲ ျဖစ္ခဲ့ပါတယ္။ ၂၀၀၂- ခုနွစ္မွာ The world Health Organisation- က ထုတ္ျပန္ေၾက ျငာပါတယ္။ အဲဒါကေတာ့- ေယဘုယ်ေရာဂါလကၡဏာတစ္ခုအတြက္ ဆရာ၀န္ကုိ ေဆြးေႏြးတုိင္ပင္ဖုိ့ သြားတဲ့- လူသုံးေယာက္အနက္ တစ္ေယာက္ဟာ- ေဒါသႏွင့္စိတ္က်ျခင္းမ်ားမွ ျဖစ္ေပၚေစတဲ့ စိတ္ပုိင္းဆုိင္ရာ မက်န္းမာမႈရဲ့ အခ်ဳိ့အမ်ဳိးအစားမ်ားႏွင့္အတူ ေရာဂါအမ်ဳိးအမည္ကုိ ရွာေဖြေဖာ္ထုတ္ခဲ့တယ္-လုိ့ ဆုိတာပါ။

ၾကီးမားတဲ့အတုိင္းအတာထိေအာင္ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့မ်ားစြာက ေဒါသႏွင့္စိတ္က်ျခင္းရဲ့ အတုိင္းအတာဒီဂရီကုိ ခံစားၾကရပါတယ္။ အကြ်ႏု္ပ္တုိ့ ရုပ္ပုိင္းဆုိင္ရာမက်န္းမာမႈရဲ့ ၾကီးမားမ်ားျပားမႈကုိ- က်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့က အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ရဲ့အေျခအေနမ်ားကုိ ေျပာင္းလဲႏုိင္မွသာလ်င္- ေရွာင္ရွားႏုိင္ ၾကပါတယ္။

၁၀- ရာခုိင္ႏႈန္းက သင္ဆီသုိ့ ျဖစ္ပ်က္ေသာအရာ ျဖစ္ပါတယ္။ ၉၀- ရာခုိင္ႏႈန္းကေတာ့ အဲဒါဆီသုိ့ သင့္ရဲ့တုန့္ျပန္မႈ အေျခအေန ျဖစ္တယ္- ဆုိတာ ေျပာဆုိခဲ့ပါျပီ။ အေရးၾကီးတဲ့အရာကေတာ့ အျပဳသေဘာေဆာင္အေကာင္းျမင္တဲ့ လမ္းမ်ားမွာ စိတ္အေႏွာင့္အယွက္ မ်ားကုိ ကုိင္တြယ္ေျဖရွင္တာနဲ့ ပတ္သက္လုိ့ ေလ့လာသင္ယူဖုိ့ပဲ ျဖစ္ပါတယ္။

Abraham Lincoln- က သူ့သားကုိ တာ၀န္ယူသင္ၾကားျပသသူ ဆရာ့ထံသုိ့ စာတစ္ေစာင္ေရးျပီး ေမတၱာရပ္ခံခဲ့ပါတယ္။ အဲဒါကေတာ့ “က်ြႏု္ပ္သားကုိ ဘယ္လုိ ေအာင္ျမင္အႏုိင္ရတယ္ဆုိတာကုိ သင္ၾကားေပးယုံမွ်သာမက၊ အဲသလုိပဲ မေအာင္ျမင္က်ရႈံးမႈကုိ ဘယ္လုိ ကုိင္တြယ္ထိန္းေက်ာင္းရမယ္ဆုိတာကုိလည္း သင္ၾကားေပးပါ” လုိ့ ျဖစ္ပါတယ္။

အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ဟာ နာမက်န္းျဖစ္ျခင္းတစ္ခုခုနဲ့ပတ္သက္လုိ့ အရာရာကုိ အျမဲတမ္းမသိပါ။ ဒါေပမယ့္ မ်ားမၾကာမီေလ့လာမႈ စစ္တမ္းတစ္ခု ေျပာတာက ရုပ္ပုိင္းဆုိင္ရာ နာမက်န္းမႈအားလုံးရဲ့ ၈၂- ရာခုိင္ႏႈန္းကုိ စိတ္ခံစားမႈက ျဖစ္ပြါးေစတယ္ ဆုိတာပါ။ ေပၚေပါက္ျဖစ္ပြါးလာဖုိ့ ဦးတည္ေသခ်ာတဲ့- က်ရႈံးမႈႏွင့္ စိတ္ထိခုိက္ရမႈမ်ားအတြက္ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ရဲ့တုံ့ျပန္မႈမ်ားမွာ- အေကာင္းဆုံးကေတာ့ ခါးသီးမႈမ်ား- ေဒါသႏွင့္ မေက်ခ်မ္းမႈအတြက္ ေရွာင္တိမ္းႏုိင္ဖုိ့ ၾကဳိးစားမႈျပဳလုပ္တာပဲ ျဖစ္ပါတယ္။

ဦးေႏွာက္ႏွင့္အာရုံေၾကာဆုိင္ရာပါရဂူမ်ား အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ကုိ ေျပာတာက- ဦးေႏွာက္ရဲ့ အေျခခံယူနစ္ျဖစ္တဲ့ အာရုံေၾကာကုိ ခ်စ္ျခင္းေမတၱာ အတြက္ God- က ဖန္တီးခဲ့တယ္- လုိ့ ဆုိပါတယ္။ သင္ႏွင့္အက်ြႏု္ပ္ God‑ ရဲ့ ခ်စ္ျခင္းေမတၱာကုိ ေတြ့ၾကဳံခံစားရတဲ့အခါ- ျပီးေတာ့ အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ရဲ့ ခ်စ္ျခင္းေမတၱာကုိ ေဖာ္ျပဖုိ့ သိျမင္ေစဖုိ့ အျခားသူမ်ားကုိ ေတြ့ရွိတဲ့အခါ- အက်ြႏု္ပ္တုိ့ခႏၶာကုိယ္ထဲမွ အဂၤါရပ္အသီးသီးက အဲဒါရဲ့သင့္ျမတ္တဲ့အဆင့္အသီးသီးဆီသုိ့ လည္ပတ္အလုပ္လုပ္သြားပါတယ္။ ေမ်ာ္လင့္ခ်က္-ယုံၾကည္ခ်က္သက္သက္ကုိယ္၌ကုိယ္က ခႏၶာကုိယ္မွာ အျပဳသေဘာေဆာင္ အေပါင္းလကၡဏာျပတဲ့ စြမ္းအင္မ်ားကုိ ထုတ္လုပ္လိမ့္မယ္- ဆုိတာပါ။

သူတုိ့ဆုိစကား

(50) Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are. Chinese Proverb

(49) Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself makes you fearless. Lao Tzu

(48) Don’t allow fear to overpower you, but allow love to overpower you. Love comes from the centre, fear always comes from the periphery; don’t allow this periphery to be dominant… there is nothing to fear at all; all that is needed is a little more awareness. Osho

(47) All men should strive to learn before they die what they are running from, and to, and why. James Thurber

(46) He who knows others is learned; He who knows himself is wisw. Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

(45) Music produces a kind of pleasure which human nature cannot do without. confucius

(44) If you help others, you will be helped, perhaps tomorrow, perhaps in one hundred years, but you will be helped. Nature must pay off the debt. It is a mathematical law and all life is mathematics. GI Gurdjieff

(43) Life’s most urgent question is; what are you doing for others? Martin Luther King, Jr

(42) I try to treat whoever I meet as an old friend with dignity, with honour. The Dalai Lama

(41) When you like your work, every day is a holiday. Frank Tyger

(40) When you’re in love, age is just a number. HUGH HEFNER

(39) If you do not raise your eyes you will think that you are the highest point. Antonio Porchia

(38) Be merciful towards the poor for their lack of patience; and towards the rich for their lack of gratitude; and be merciful towards all of them, for all their carelessness.

(37) Do not be ashamed if the amount of charity is small because to turn away the needy empty-handed is an act of greater shame.

(36) Do not seek help in satisfying your needs from someone who has more need of what you want, than you.

(35) If you cannot get things as much as you desire then be contented with what you have.

(34) There’s no companion better than good character and no legacy better than courteous behaviour.

(33) A man’s value depends upon his courage and resolution, his veracity depends upon his traits of nobility and self-respect and his chastity depends upon his sense of honour.

(32) Better be alone than in bad company. Thomas Fuller

(31) Live with people who are blissful, so that you can have a little whiff, a taste. You will have to live in satsang. You will have to look into the eyes of someone who has arrived, so that you can have a little taste- a lattle sweetness enters into your being, and you can see. A great longing arises in you, seeing that life is not all misery – that nirvana is possible. Osho

(30) This is love; to fly towards a secret sky, to cause a hundred veils to fall each moment. First to let go of life. Finally, to take a step without feet……Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. Jalaluddin Rumi

(29) Love is the strongest force the world possesses, and yet it is the humblest imaginable. MK Gandhi

(28) The greatest degree of inner tranquillity comes from the development of love and compassion. The more we care for the happiness of others, the greater is our own sense of well-being. The Dalai Lama XIV

(27) Forgiveness is a perfectly selfish act. It sets you free from the past. Brian Tracy

(26) He who refuses to forgive breaks the bridge over which he, too, must cross. Confucius

(25) Copassion literally means to feel with, to suffer with. Everyone is capable of compassion, and yet everyone tends to avoid it because it’s uncomfortable. And the avoidance produces psychic numbing- resistance to experiencing our pain for the world and other beings. Joanna Macy

(24) Compassion is not religious busness, it is human business, it is human business, it is not luxury, it is essential for our own peace and mental stability, it is essential for human survival. Tenzin Gyatso, the XIVth Dalai Lama

(23) He who regards the world as he does the fortune of his own body can govern the world. He who loves the world as he does his own body can be entrusted with the world. Tao te Ching

(22) Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune. Jim Rohn

(21) The ancient Masters didn’t try to educate the people, but kindly taught them to not-know. Lao Tzu

(20) Education is the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or yourself –confidence. Robert frost

(19) All power is within you, you can do anything and everything. Believe in that. Swami Vivekananda

(18) Genuine happiness consists in those spiritual qualities of love, compassion, patience, tolerance and forgiveness. For it is these which provide both for our happiness and others’ happiness. The XIV Dalai Lama

(17) Suffering is not holding you. You are holding suffering. When you become good at the art of letting sufferings go, then you’ll come to realise how unnecessary it was for you to drag those burdens around with you. You’ ll see that no one else other than you was responsible. The truth is that existence wants your life to become a festival. Osho

(16) By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. Lao Tzu

(15) Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your value. The Dalai Lama XIV

(14) Knowledge is learning something every day. Wisdom is letting go of something everyday. Zen Proverb

(13) The goal of life is living in agreement with nature. Zeno

(12) This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness. The Dalai Lama XIV

(11) The religion of the future will be a cosmic religion. The religion that is based on experience, which refuses dogma. My religion consists of a humble admiration of the illimitable superior spirit who reveals himself in the slight details we are able to perceive with our frail and feeble mind. Albert Einstein

(10) An original is a ceration motivated by desire. Any reproduction of an original is motivated be necessity. It is marvellous that we are marvellous that we are the only species that cretes gratuitious forms. To create is divine, to reproduce is human. Man Ray

(9) Each species is a master piece, a creation assmbled with extreme care and genius. Edward O Wilson

(8) The creatures that inhabit this earth- be they human beings or animals- are here to contribute, each in its own particular way, to the beauty and properity of the world. The Dalai Lama XIV

(7) The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. M K Gandhi

(6) Many of life’s faillures are people who did not relise how close they were to success when they gave up. Thomas A Edison

(5) Our greatest glory is not in never failling but in rising up every time we fail. Ralph W Emerson

(4) Don’t be discouraged by a failure. Failure is, in a sense, the highway to success, inasmuch as every discovery of what is false leads us to seek earnestly after what is true, and every fresh experience points out some form of error which we shall afterwards carefully avoid. John Keats

(3) Man can never be a woman’s equal in the spirit of selfless service with which nature has endowed her. M K Gandhi

(2) Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth. Mohammed ali

(1) you can’t live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you. John Wooden

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(1) Before you desire to control the universe, you must first be able to completely control yourself.

Sun Myung Moon

(2) First you must learn to control yourself. The rest follows. Blessed is he who knows himself and commands himself, for the world is his and love and happiness and peace walk with him wherever he goes. Robert Heinlein

(3) The wife is not the husband’s bond-slave but his companion and equal partner in all his joys and sorrows, and is as free as the husband to choose her own path. M K Gandhi

(4) if you wake up at a different time, in a different place, could you wake up as a different person? Chuck Palahniuk

(5) there is nothing that gives more assurance than a mask. Colette

(6) a man does not have to be an angel in order to be saint. Albert Schweitzer

(7) the hero is one who kindles a great light in the world, who sets up blazing torches in the dark streets of life for men to see by. The saint is the man who walks through the dark paths of the world, himself a light. Felix adler

(8) each new step, each new adventure, bring new richness. Every new dawn brings totally new world around you….no two sunrises are the same; no two sunsets are the same. The world is a discontinuous contiunity- discontinuous because every moment something new is happening. Osho

(9) the only way to keep from going back ward is to keep going forward. Eternal vigilance is the price of success. There are three steps, and each one is absolutely essential. You must first have the knowledge of your power; second, the courage to dare; third, the faith to do. Charles F Haanel

(10) love consists not in feeling great things but in having great detachment and in suffering for the beloved. St. John of the Cross

(11) If there is no solution to the problem then don’t waste time worrying about it. If there is a solution to the problem then don’t waste time worrying about it. The Dalai Lama XIV

(12) If we can really understand the problem , the answer will come out of it, because the answer is not separate from the problem. Jiddu Krishnamurti

(13) There is no solution; seek it lovingly. Socrates

(14) Love is the only solution. Anand Krishna

(15) Great thinkers think inductively, that is, they create solutions and then seek out the problems that solutions might solve; most companies think deductively, that is, defining a problem and then investigating different solutions. Joey Reiman

(16) The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landcapes, but in having new eyes. Marcel Proust

(17) What appears to be the end of the road may simply be a bend in the road. Robert H Schuller

(18) when we cannot communicate, we get sick, and as our sickness increases, we suffer and spill our suffering on other people. Thich Nhan Hanh

(19) True happiness come from a sense of brotherhood and sisterhood. We need to cultivate a universal responsibility for one another and the planet we share. The Dalai Lama

(20) You will have to live with people who are blissful, so that you can have a little whiff, a taste. You will have to look into the eyes of someone who has arrived, so that you can have a little test- a little sweetness enters into your being, and you can see. Osho

(21) No road is long with good company. Turkish Proverb

(22) You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with. Wayne W Dyer

(23) Keep your thoughts positive becacuse your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behaviours. Keep your behavours positive because your behaviours become your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny. MK Gandhi

(24) sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy. Thich Nhat Hanh

(25) A good laugh and a long sleep are the best cures in the doctor’s book. Irish Proverb

(26) your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within youreslf that you have built against it. Jalaluddin Rumi

(27) You must give sometime to your fellow men. Even if it’s a little thing, do something for others- something for which you get no pay but the privilege of doing it. Albert Schweitzer

(28) The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you’re in control of your life. If you don’t life controls you. Anthony Robbins

(29) Education is our passport to the future, for tomorrow belong to the people who prepare for it today. Malcolm X

(30) You may never know what results come of your action, but if you do nothing there will be no result. MK Gandhi

(31) when you separate yourself by belief, by nationality, by tradition, it breeds violence. So a man who is seeking to understand violence does not belong to any country, to any religion, to any political party or partial system; he is concerned with the total understanding of mankind. Jkrishnamurti

(32) our individual well-being is intimately conncted both with that of all others and with the environment within which we live. The XIV Dalai Lama

(33) Non-violence and kindness to living beings is kindness to oneself. For thereby one’s own self is saved from various kinds of sins and resultant sufferings and is able to secure his own welfare. Jyotiprasada Jaina

(34) Non-violence is not a garment to be put on and off at will. Its seat is in the heart, and it must be an inseparable part of our being. MK Gandhi

(35) For tomorrow belongs to the people who prepare for it today. African Proverb

(36) do not be wise in words- be wise in deeds. Jewish Proverb

(37) all know the way; few actually walk it. Bodhidharma

(38) We should be taught not to wait for inspiration to start a thing. Action always generates inspiration. Inspiration seldom generates action. Frank Tibolt

(39) An idea not coupled with action will never get any bigger than the brain cell it occupied. Arnold Glasow

(40) Action is the last resource of thouse who know not how to dream. Oscar Wilde

(41) Talk doesn’t cook rice. Chinese Proverb

(42) man often becomes what he believes himeslf to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary,…if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning. MK Gandhi

(43) Don’t limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, you can achieve. Mary Kay Ash

(44) Opportunities to find deeper powers within ourselves come when life seems most challenging. Joseph Cambell

(45) The opposite of a correct statement is a false statement. The opposite of a profound truth may well be another profound truth. Niels Bohr

(46) The man who is seeking truth is free of all societies and cultures…there is no path to truth, it must come to you. Truth can come to you only when your mind and heart is love in your hear; not if your heart is filled with the things of the mind. Jkrishnamurti

(47) Men stumble over the truth from time to time, but most pick themselves up and hurry off as if nothing happened. Winston Churchill

(48) Gratitude is the most exquiste form of courtesy. Jacques Maritain

(49) To speak kindly does not hurt the tongue. Proverb

(50) He who sows courtesy reaps friendship, and he who plants kindness gathers love. St Basil